Prayers to Silence My Inner Critic

Let me be completely honest and authentic with you. Right now I am living the life I prayed for. A happy family of three living in a cozy, pretty home. We spend weekends cooking delicious food and listening to music, taking country drives. Despite all of what happened in my past, my past could not stop God’s blessing for me. In so many ways my life is flourishing. I have never been happier or had more confidence.

Still…my inner critic has a long way to go. I have accepted God’s grace for my past sins and mistakes. I no longer revisit them. God has redeemed me completely and fully. However, I have days where I am running a cruel tape of self doubt about my abilities. I cannot even begin to tell you how far I have come, but I still have so far to go in this area. Women who have experienced past abuse are much more prone to have this vicious inner voice. In addition to this, I have always had a personality that strives for more. From a young age I never let myself truly rest. One of my strengths is my ability to audit, critique, and make something good into something excellent, to add beauty and elevate projects and spaces to another level. My personality type coupled with a past of abuse and divorce is a double hit for self doubt and inner criticism.

My husband and I had an in-depth conversation about this because frankly it bothers him when I doubt myself and pick myself apart. John pointed out that on my blog I share how Christ brings about true transformation. He told me this negative inner voice is another area I need to turn over to Christ for transformation. In fact, he told me in a caring but firm way this negative inner tape of self doubt holds me back from reaching a new level of joy, confidence, and career growth.

As a working mom, I run a tape of negativity if I miss a minor school event for business travel. I didn’t get to take my son to the book fair, am I a good enough mom? (I forget about everything I sacrificed as a single mom to make sure my son had a happy, health home environment.)

Am I still attractive? I am only 34 and my hair would be solid gray if I didn’t go to the salon every month. (I forget about the fact that I see the beauty in other women and think other women with gray hair look lovely.)

There are so many negative thoughts that stem from past hurts, rejections, and cruel words. Unfortunately, it is easy to find ourselves in social or work environments where there are vicious, callous people. Sad but true.

About two years ago, after my prayer time, I felt led to ban all fashion magazines. I have noticed a big boost in self confidence. Looking at unrealistic standards was not serving my higher good. It was a toxic way to spend my precious free time. After cutting out fashion magazines, I experienced a huge boost in my self confidence. You may be led to do something entirely different.

“In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.” -Happy Place

I have come so far by God’s grace but I still have a way to go.

As I shared, giving my troubles to God while meditating on Psalms 37 is very therapeutic for me. So I am going to take this same approach with all of my negative inner thoughts that I need to let go.

John suggested I write them down each day as they arise, pray and give them to God, and then burn them for a flair of drama. That process of writing down and then letting go is what works for me.

It goes without saying that it is God’s will for us to dwell on what is good, right, what brings peace, is lovely, and worthy of praise (Philippians 4:8).

I truly believe God is capable of changing me and soon enough I will be set free from negative inner talk. (Philippians 1:6) Faith and prayer, and turning things over to God produces results. (James 5:16)

Maybe you deal with a negative inner critic? Or maybe you need to let go of something else right now? Either way, make sure your foundation is strong. Know that God is pleased with you and you are already a success. I am praying for you and you can pray for me as I work on overcoming.


A Meditation for the Worst of Times

One thing I keep in mind often is that many of my readers are walking through the fire right now of illness, low self esteem, depression, hormone roller coasters, divorce, being laid off from work, and anything else that potentially leaves us feeling like our life is in turmoil.

During the worst time of my life, I had a routine that allowed me to lean into my need for growth and walk through the valley to the other side. Psalm 37 was my prayer guide and meditation. In the evening before I could sleep I would sit in a comfy chair next to a beautiful white orchid, sip some herbal tea and allow the words of Psalm 37 to seep into my soul.

Verses 3 through 9 were part of my life on a daily basis for almost a year. Each verse played a role in allowing me to let go and let God transform my life.

If your life feels like you are drowning right now set aside fifteen or twenty minutes a day to be saturated with Psalm 37.

Set Your Intention to Trust

“Trust [rely on and have confidence] in the LORD and do good; Dwell in the land and feed [securely] on His faithfulness.” Psalm 37:3

Take a few moments to relax, enjoy some quiet, sip tea and let yourself settle into your meditation and prayer time. Read this verse and decide to rely on God to do good in your life and be open minded to feed on His faithfulness. Reading this verse is calming and seemed to always soothe my anxiety and panic. It makes me think of Jesus suddenly calming the raging seas.

Pour out the Desires of your Heart

“Delight yourself in the LORD, And He will give you the desires and petitions of your heart.” Psalm 37:4

This is the time to pour out your heart and tell God everything you desire. For me, I would imagine having a beautiful, cozy home to raise my son, a place where we could walk around in the yard in the evenings with fireflies lighting up the landscape. A safe and serene, healing, inviting environment for us to live in.

You may be desiring a new job, to be healed from depression, to own your own business, a baby, or simply hoping your basic needs will be met. Grow in your relationship with God by being honest about what you truly want. God plants the seeds in us and God wants to bless us in this way! Trust God with your desires.

Delighting yourself in the Lord is easier each day as you grow in a sense of His love for you. Read the Foundation of Everything if you need to deepen in this area. The more gratitude I felt for what Christ has given me, the more of my desires came to fruition.

Divine Guidance

Commit your way to the LORD; Trust in Him also and He will do it.” Psalm 37:5

I would be doing you an injustice if I didn’t admit to you that in making some of the biggest decisions of my life I felt absolutely terrified. Seeking guidance and being led by peace is another way to deepen and grow in trust in the Lord.

I like to see the whole picture but God often leads me only one tiny step forward at a time. Pray and promise God you are committed to His path for your life. Do it afraid. God’s plans for us are so much better than we could ever imagine or come up with for ourselves.

Pray that God reveals to you the next small step forward you can take. The next tiny change he wants you to make. Or perhaps you will be lead to take a giant leap. My darling friend God loves you so much. Know that God wants your life to be amazing.

Radiance, Light, and Energy

He will make your righteousness [your pursuit of right standing with God] like the light, And your judgment like [the shining of] the noonday [sun].” Psalm 37:6

When I began deepening my understanding of being righteous in Christ I felt so much lighter inside. When they are operating and flowing in total grace, women of Christ have a radiance and glow that just cannot be explained. When I worry it chokes off that radiance and it leaves me feeling lackluster, aching, and drained.

Shame can not overtake you when you are standing in your radiance.

Take some moments to meditate on how Christ redeemed you from sin and shame. He set you free to shine. Let that knowledge deep into your soul and make you more beautiful each day from the inside out.

The Many Moments of Waiting

Be still before the LORD; wait patiently for Him and entrust yourself to Him; Do not fret (whine, agonize) because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who carries out wicked schemes. Cease from anger and abandon wrath; Do not fret; it leads only to evil.” Psalm 37:7-8

Doing nothing is the most challenging thing for someone with my personality to do. As I waited for God to come through in situations I would catch myself trying to step in and quicken the pace, I would be riddled with anxiety, and I would be filled with anger at how other people who didn’t care two cents about pleasing God or knowing Christ were seemingly so much better off. Essentially I would do everything this verse advises us not to do while we wait.

As practical as it sounds, I had to busy myself doing other things. I would cuddle in bed with my son watching a movie and eating popcorn together. Journaling was my greatest tool. At that time, I began a digital journal where I would add photography and hand lettered quotes to the typed pages. All of those hours spend in pure bliss are now the foundation of the Flourish blog. You can also create a private Pinterest board and pin images of your dream life. Many life coaches recommend creating a Dream Board in this way.

The last thing you want to do is enjoy your self at this moment. Demonstrate your trust in God by letting go and letting yourself relax with family or go get a pedicure. God loves to see your trusting in Him and enjoying life abundantly.

Time to Inherit the Land

For those who do evil will be cut off, But those who wait for the LORD, they will inherit the land.” Psalm 37:9

‭‭In this verse, you are promised by God you will inherit the land. It is an unshakable promise that you can hold onto.

So many people say that life is hard and then you die. I cringe when people say that because I truly believe in my heart we can see the promises of God come true in our lives. Our families can experience days of heaven on earth. (Deuteronomy 11:21)

This season will pass and you will come out on the other side radiant and with an incredible life transforming testimony you can share with others.

As you wrap up your meditation time visualize yourself in the land you have been promised. Go ahead and release your faith. Thank God for it before you see it in the natural. In God’s eyes you are His beloved child. God is pleased with you and already sees you as a success.

Remember you are not alone. God is with you. I am praying for you and so are all your other fellow blog readers. Let’s pray for each other and empower each other in the name of Jesus who loves us. Amen!

A Supplement for your Reset Weekend

When I wrote the blog post A Weekend Plan to Pause and Reflect my hope was to share some of the ways I have found to maximize the weekend. If you give your weekend to God you will be amazed how transformative just two days of prayer, meditation, and affirmations can be! With the Holy Spirit involved it’s miraculous.

This week was a hard hit so I look forward to combing through my own blog post and hitting the reset button this weekend.

A lovely writer behind the Instagram feed Piece of Mind Journal has agreed to share one of her personal journal pages for inspiration. (She also operates this shop.) She sets out her plans to carry the weekend reset into the upcoming week. I knew it would help you as much as it did me!

You can, of course, modify any way that helps you. I always feel so inspired by authentic examples from other. I have also added a link to this on the free resources page.

God is Pleased with You: The Foundation of Everything

“For those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.

-Psalms 34:5 NLT

God is pleased with you.

We all go through difficult times in our lives, and this message is for women who can empathize with times of feeling broken. You may be in the midst of what feels like chaos and disaster, or you may simply just have lost your spark, going through the motions every day with no zeal or passion for life. Wherever you happen to be, we can always use a refreshing reminder of our spiritual foundation.

I was going through the darkest, most difficult time of my life around five years ago when my preacher’s wife asked me to meet her for coffee at a local coffee shop. That day was a rainy, dreary winter day. I can still remember all of the heavy feelings I had of shame, exhaustion, humiliation, failure. Nothing in my life had turned out the way I had wanted it to. The only bright spot at that time was my two year old son, my whole world, who I was about to raise on my own.


She and I ordered our coffee and chatted for a few minutes about motherhood and shopping. Our conversation quickly opened up into my current situation. She offered to prayed with me.

After, she looked at me and said, “God is pleased with you.”

That statement took me off guard and took deep root in my heart. That was the last thing I felt and the last thing I expected to hear from a preacher’s wife. {On a side note, you never know when you might say something encouraging that could change the entire course of someone’s life.}

I  doubted very seriously that God was pleased with me and later that night decided to read the Bible for myself to see if this were actually true. I had cried out to God to help me and from that moment everything in my life began to brighten. There were still challenges, but rather than let myself be swallowed by humiliation and shame, I accepted the grace into my heart that I so desperately needed.

The foundation of complete and total transformation is accepting the grace of God.

The foundation of complete and total transformation is accepting the grace of God. In Christ, I can be secure that God is pleased with me! Once that took root in my spirit, I was never the same.

God’s will for you is to enjoy life, and have it in abundance, to the full, till it overflows. (See John 10:10 AMP). God’s plans for us are good, not full of disaster. God wants you to have a future and to have hope. (See Jeremiah 29:11 NLT).

No matter your past, be daring and step into the abundant life you deserve through Christ!

When we shed guilt and shame and step into the life Christ died to give us, we can show others the goodness of God, who called us out of darkness into His wonderful light. (See 1 Peter 2:9 NLT.) Do not go by what you see in your life now. (See 2 Corinthians 5:7 ESV). But rather, pray to receive a vision for a new and extraordinary life that causes you to wake up every morning excited to be alive.

When ever I read the story of the prodigal son, I can always picture myself. I walked home as a defeated failure and was greeted with open arms by a God who was delighted to finally have me home. I rarely can read that story in the Bible without crying happy tears.

That is what I pray that you will experience. I pray that you can know the love of Christ so deeply in your heart that you shed all of your guilt and shame. That you walk into the abundantly blessed life you were meant to have. That you see God as a father running to embrace you and welcome you back home where you belong! When you run to Him you will become a woman radiant with joy. No shadow of guilt or shame will darken your face.